As much as others may — at most times — identify with you or your actions, it is impossible to go through life without occasionally being misunderstood. While you can control what you say or how you act, you cannot always control how others choose to interpret it.
And at times, it may seem that no matter how hard you try to explain yourself to others, they just don’t “get it”.
This should be expected.
Not everyone will understand your journey. That’s fine. It’s not their journey to make sense of. It’s yours. It may help to remember that you don’t have to explain yourself or justify your actions to others unless you want to.
The need to explain one’s self is often prompted by fear and the desire to control the outcome of a conversation — for both validation and approval. Just because someone doesn’t agree with your explanation or decisions doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong.
If you are truly in love with your decisions, the more confident you will be that it doesn’t matter what others think of them.
“If you’re truly going after your heart’s desires and you truly believe in yourself and what you’re trying to accomplish, then you’re not doing it for others or what they think about it — you’re doing it for you.“
And also realize that you are in control of your emotions. You don’t have to go into the defensive emotional state when having a disagreement or when someone is critical of you or something you’ve done. Remember that this heightened emotional state is most often motivated by your insecurities and need to be accepted.
“Inner Peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.”
As I’ve written before, you can not please everyone, nor should it be your goal to try. What others think of you, your ideas, your decisions, or your journey isn’t nearly as important as what you think of these things.
Your value doesn’t reside in others or what they think of you — it resides in you. Don’t leave your sense of worth and well-being in the hands of others.
The more confident you are in yourself, the less concerned you will be about what others think of you (for good or ill) — and counter-intuitively, the more people will tend to respect you for it.
Source: http://zerosophy.com/
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